How to have a successful relationship and marriage

       The most challenging and pressing issues all over the world today is how to have a successful relationship and marriage because the dream of every youth is to become successful in life and have a sweet relationship/ marriage.

The truth is spending your entire life with just one partner is not easy, is just like eating just rice for the rest of your life when you have options to eat other types of food. Below are tactical approach that can help in staging a long , healthy and successful relationship/marriage.

End Poor Relationships Early

It is advisable to walk out of a new relationship that look unhealthy before it’s too late. The mistake most people make in relationship is that they don’t want to be blamed for walking out of a relationship knowing fully well that things are not going on well.

It’s common sense, you can’t make every relationship work. Most relationships are doomed from the start. You may know that you entered into a wrong relationship due to ignorance or inpatient , but you stick around anyway, just in case you’re wrong. Stop being so hopeful, the more time you waste dating the wrong person, the less time you have to meet the right one.


99% Honesty

Honesty can be difficult at time but if you want a successful relationship and marriage you have to make sacrifices by been honest in all matters and situations. You may share with your partner the things he or she doesn’t want to hear. Better this than to have him or her doubt your honesty. Mistrust is one of the key deal breakers in relationships. And once trust is lost or broken, every thing is lost.The happiest couples are the ones that use honesty in there Day to Day dealing.


Don’t Cheat

If you truly love your partner, you will not cheat because you will not see his/her short comings. Cheating is a result of laziness and been weak. You’re obviously not doing enough within your relationship to keep it exciting. Relationships sometimes have problems, causing people to fall into the arms of others, but if you have a healthy relationship, don’t go looking for new tail. Your partner is still sweet just as he/she was when you first meet.You’re just bored because you’re too lazy to make things exciting or right.


Love unconditionally

If you don’t love your partner, you are wasting both your time and his or her time. Plus, the inevitable breakup will just get worse the longer you wait. Safe guide your relationship/marriage by trying something new and interesting together. By doing so,it will make your love and relationship/marriage look brand new and keep the spark alive.

it's not just the big things or big gift that matter: showing love through words, expression and small gestures matters and go a long way the the success of a relationship/marriage.

DON'T TRY TO CHANGE EACH OTHER

One of the greatest tools in a successful relationship/marriage is never to try change who your partner are. If you truly love someone, you will love everything about the person both possible and negative. In fact true love don’t see his/her partner faults, instead you try to love them more for who they are.

Maybe you expect your partner to help you with house chores but did not , don’t take offense or try to make them do it by force instead focus on each other's strengths and weaknesses then work on it. If both you and your partner stop trying to change each other, you will eliminate the source of most of your arguments.


Be playful

Don’t do thing with seriousness every time, fine time to play,joke or even play games together. We all know that adult life tends to emphasize productivity and seriousness, but sometimes it's about playing. Playful people take time to prioritize enjoyment, pleasure, amusement, and having fun, and such an orientation in romantic relationships is predictive of satisfaction. playing is an important dimension of a successful relationship/marriage.


Talk about any misunderstanding

Misunderstanding are bound to happen in a relationship, even the tongue and teeth fight. When couples are navigating serious conflicts, are secure in their relationship, and have the ability to adapt their behaviors, being direct and oppositional can actually help more than other approaches; however, a more cooperative, affectionate approach may be the best strategy when someone tends to get defensive or when the conflict is minor. When there is conflict, you don’t have to be too defensive, listen more and take a longer time to react.


Keep The Sex life Hot and active

Don’t allow your job, social life or anything reduce your sexual ability.Sex should never be boring. It may not always be earthshaking, but that should basically be the goal. It’s when we get lazy in the sack, when we just want to finish and get to bed, that the flame burns out. Find a new way to do it. Ladies safe your relationship/marriage when you notice your man sexual life is going down due to work stress , you can give him some food that will boost the sexual strength or go for counseling.


Know Your Partner Deeply

It is advisable to always be a casual friend to your partner before you go into a relationship as this will help to get to know each other better before entering a relationship . When you know someone deeply, you know that person in the same way he or she knows him or herself. It’s not that you know all the information and facts there are to know; you know them for whatever exactly it is that makes them, them. This will help you know if you are compatible or not before entering into a relationship.


Respect one another

If you love someone, you have to respect and treat that person as a human being. Often times, this does require giving personal space. Treating your partner with respect is likely to get you the same in return. And regularly reminding them how much they mean to you will enrich your relationship in indescribable ways. Always express your feelings of appreciation with your partner it makes the bond stronger.


Always look Good

There is a saying that says looking good is a good business.Always make sure you look good so that your partner will always see you charming and attractive. The fact is, attributes we find physically attractive add to our level of emotion.

Don’t let your appearance slide. Think about when you first met your partner. Would you have allowed your partner talk with you if he/she looks dirty and unkept ? Don’t get me wrong,I’m not saying you have to look like a top model every time. But make sure you look good and attractive just like the way you are the very first day you met if not more.

I am not saying you should dress to kill but dress in a way that your spouse will pay you a courtesy or appreciate you.


Keep to your word

You’re only as good as your word; that counts double in relationships. Breaking a promise can ruin the trust and unity your relationship is based on. It’s better to take time thinking about if can realistically follow through before committing than to let your partner down when you drop the ball.


Communicate

Be a good listener, lack of communication is the number one reason even good relationships fail. Listen to your partner’s position, without interrupting him or her. When your partner finished, summarize what you heard him or her say. If you can, empathize with your significant other even though you don’t agree. This will take your partner off of the defensive, and make it easier for them to hear your thoughts and feelings. It’s hard to argue when you use this format, and best of all, you may come up with an understanding or a solution. Don’t be too defensive and don jump into conclusion even before your partner land.


Sleep together

Bedtime is one of those rare moments when the house is quiet and you’re done with the day’s obligations. Head to bed when your partner does and Spend quality time cuddling,playing and talking about how you both spend your day before you both finally sleep.



Successful relationships don't just happen,you both need to make sacrifices and pray for a successful relationship.